A Client’s Journey of Letting Go of Grief

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My clients are the best ambassadors of my work, the wonderful Annika Souma Frey left this testimonial on Facebook

 

“Today I want to introduce you to another one of my angels in the background. Please come and meet Dipti Solanki.

Back in May, on Gemma’s Elevate Live event in Birmingham, I got on stage and shared a short, but pivotal time of my life with the attending women. A painful time, a time that changed the direction of my life. Chantelle took this piece of my story and transformed it into a powerful TED style speech, calling all of us to claim our voices and reclaim our lives.

Shortly after I left the stage a woman approached me, gently, but firm, asking if she could talk to me in private for a moment. So we stepped outside and she told me that she could see that the tears and the pain that I had shared on stage were just the tip of the iceberg. And that she would like to offer her support so I could let that go. “I can help you. I want to help you. Have a look at my website, sleep about it and if you want to work with me let me know.” Were the words she spoke while handing me her card.

In that moment, completely overwhelmed with what had just happened, I thanked her and hugged her, put the card into my handbag and then focused on my energy and the need to ground and hydrate.


Back home, unpacking, I came across her card:

Dipti Solanki, Homeopathy & Coaching – Grief Coach


I had been looking for someone who could help me release and heal some things that kept returning even after I would use my tried and tested tools. And some of them simply felt too big to work my way through them alone. Facing them was scarier and more painful than just ignoring them. But as a healer myself I knew I had to address them eventually, that these were things holding me back. Maybe she was the one who could hold the space for me to face them?

I booked in for a call with her. 

Her calm presence and her kind voice and the way I felt being with her – heard, understood, witnessed – convinced me: she was the one I had been looking for.

So mid June we started our grief work together. I was so impressed by the thought, knowledge and structure of her method that she combined with her incredible ability to bring up the most painful memories that we all hide in tightly closed pockets of our heart and mind, so we don’t have to deal with them. As someone who had done a lot of healing work before I was prepared to go deep and do the work.

At the same time I wasn’t prepared for all the things our conversations and the exercises she gave me would bring to the surface – and the impact long gone experiences still had on me in the present moment.
Through our work I not only dealt with suppressed trauma and grief I didn’t realise I was holding, I found a new awareness and appreciation for my life and the people in it. 

Last month – after 12 sessions together – we finished our grief work.

Originally we had planned to have a session a week, in reality, with both of us juggling work trips and children, it took us almost five month. I never felt rushed to complete one of the assignments or continue before I had processed the last section we worked on. Dipti regularly checked in with me over messages and kept reminding me to be patient and kind with myself. She was by my side when I dealt with the news of my surprise pregnancy – guiding me through the process of grieving the plans I had made for the rest of the year and through the storm of emotions that came with this.



So how do I feel after having experienced Dipti’s flavour of magic in depth? Free. Undefined. Able to chose and be whoever I am and want to be in every moment.


To an extend I never felt before. Over the last decade, or rather over the last 15 years I have let go of many rules I had created for myself in my childhood, and then, as a result of that work, redefined myself.

Never though have I cleaned up my inner emotional landscape as thoroughly in one big go as I did with Dipti.

Was it hard? Yes it was. I cried, sometimes for days, flushing out the pain we uncovered. I procrastinated on my assignments, pushing them to the last minute. I did rituals alongside of our work, supporting myself in this process of constant release and detachment. It would have been very easy to search for a scapegoat and blame Dipti for how crappy I was feeling while we flushed out any remaining crap stuck in my system. To stop trusting her and her process and abandon our work in favour of staying comfortable. And I’m proud that I didn’t.

Because as unfamiliar and scary this feeling of floating is…the lack of labels and triggers and automatic responses…it’s delicious and sweet and a new way of being. And I’m looking forward to the day I have integrated all we worked on. I know now what tools to reach for when I spot another old pocket of pain or a fresh wound, a new hurt that just occurred and I know where to go if it’s too much to deal with by myself. Dipti showed me that I’m strong enough to deal with it all. And for that I will be grateful, forever. Thank you!



If you are ready, and I mean really ready, to let go of your grief and heal the heartbreak that occurred in your life, if you are looking for someone who will hold the space for anything – the death of a loved one, a miscarriage (or several), the loss of a job or the end of a relationship – so you can feel free to chose who you are and how you react I recommend to check out Dipti and her work.



And if you will see me in the future, talking about traumatic experiences and deeply hurtful things freely and without hidden pain in my voice know that Dipti and the work we did were the key to get there.



I know she is offering 1:1 and an upcoming group program as well as a retreat at the start of next year. Explore her offerings and see if her work speaks to you. Working with her was one of the best decisions I ever made in my life!”

 

If you would like to know more about how I can help you move through your grief in a structured way which leads to real emotional freedom email me on dipti@diptisolanki.com

Thank you for reading!

Dipti xx

 

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