No I mean how are you really?
I don’t know about you but when I was younger, I used to think that when I reached X age or I had achieved X thing or the children were more independent, that things would finally settle down and we could experience a period of stability. That things would be still for a while, nothing would change and I could coast along in blissful contentment.
Oh how wrong was I?!
What I learn every single day is that the more time that passes, the more that our friends & families grow, change happens at a faster rate than is imaginable. I mean I have always heard that the only thing that is guaranteed is change but sometimes I am astounded at how quickly this can happen.
These changes are deep. These changes can sometimes be overwhelming, they can bring more happiness and joy than you could ever imagine, they can sometimes be painful, they can be devastating and they can be life changing.
During a conversation this week I was referring to my realisation that when big chaos starts to reign in our lives it’s then that we have the biggest opportunity to grow as individuals, develop and eliminate the things that no longer serve us or that we are no longer in alignment with.
Of course sometimes change is imposed on us and it doesn’t feel entirely comfortable and welcome and this can make it difficult.
But it’s during these periods of change that we must grow and develop emotionally, because change brings challenges. Challenges which test our emotional resilience, our mindsets, they will force us to look at our old belief systems.
I see this daily in my clinical work, people who are unable to adapt to change become very stuck. Becoming stuck is not ideal for so many reasons and can present itself in so many ways, one of these reasons is that being stuck can bring on mental health challenges.
It felt right to give a nod to this week, given that it’s mental health awareness week, however those of you who know my work will know that mental health is always the focus of my work.
So how can these mental health challenges present themselves when we become stuck?
- Binge eating
- Emotional eating
- Forced control
- Constant worry, so much so you don’t realise it’s a problem, and that worry freezes you into inaction
- Explosive anger
- Withdrawal and isolation
- Physical ailments
The first thing is to not ignore yourself. Don’t ignore what you are feeling, don’t ignore what you are struggling with, don’t ignore the way you know change around you is affecting you.
You are Not Meant to Deal With Everything On Your Own
Give yourself permission to seek help. It can be asking someone who will just listen, in a ‘heart with ears’ kind of way and not a ‘fixing’ way.
It can be coaching, it can be homeopathy, it can be NLP, it can be EFT, it can be RTT. Whatever it is please don’t ignore how you feel.
Addressing how change affects us, how difficult we are finding it, working through it and getting the help you need gives you the gift of incredible growth and development, if offers you freedom. It offers the promise of realising your true potential and peeling away the layers to your truest self.
But it’s not always pretty and its not easy, but it is so worth it.
If anything you have read here resonates with you, if you feel you are struggling with a mental health challenge, or are stuck and feel like there is no way out. I promise you there is, and usually lies within you. I can help you peel all this back and achieve the magic of getting to know who you really are and exactly what you are capable of.
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